Author Regina Weston

Regina Weston is an Author and Counselor. She uses her knowledge, skills and experiences to educate and enhance the lives of women.

Monday, August 17, 2015

Married But Living The Single Life by Regina Weston

How many women are married to men that live as though they are single? A show of hands or a few amen's, is all that is needed for confirmation.

Why is this, I ask sincerely?

These husband expects their wives to fulfill all their wifely duties, and then some but what a husband is suppose to do, well, the handbook rules does not apply to them. They come and go as the please, and/or do what they please with no regards to what you feel or think about it. Your concerns, thoughts, when expressed go on death ears.

My question is, why get married if you want to be single, and live the life of a bachelor? When you're single you don't have to answers to a wife or a mate. But when you are married things are different, you have to answer to that person.

The reality is that people, men and women, get married for many reasons. The right reasons, the wrong reasons, the selfish reasons, and self-serving reasons. People need to be honest with who they really are and what they want in a relationship and a marriage and stop selling pipe dreams filled with nothing but smoke and mirrors.

For the ladies that want to be married be careful before you say, "I Do." If reds flags are flashing before your eyes before you're married to that man, pay attention to them. Don't ignore them! Warnings do come before destruction. The key words for today are "Thinking, before you leap into a forever contract."

When two people join in a union that is to death do you part, love, mutual respect for each other's thoughts and feelings, trust and communication should be at the forefront of the mind and intent of the hearts of those individuals. And if you're dating someone that is selfish, self-centered, narcissistic, controlling, those characteristic don't change after saying, I Do, things get more intense because now this person feels that you have to accept what they do or how they act.   

Marry what you willing to deal with is my advice to you. If you know how someone is, don't complain about what you already knew after the fact. The only one you have the power to change is yourself. 

Thursday, August 6, 2015

Friday, July 17, 2015

MH Blog Topic Quitting Is Not An Option EP 5

Key points of today’s topic:

·        1. Don't give up, deal with the issues in
your life and regroup accordingly 
·        2. Remember that others are watching you,
to see how you are going to handle the adversities in    your life and their looking
to you for strength to help them to make it, saying if she can do it, then so  can I.
·       3.  Don't compare yourself to others
because we all think and deal with things differently
·        4. Leave a legacy behind that others can
gleam from
·        5. And know that it's alright to cry but
after the tears has dried, pick yourself up and keep it pushing  forward

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

"If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living." -Gail Sheehy
 "So why not give it a try and see how it works for you." - Regina Weston

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

"The price of doing the same old thing is far higher than the price of change." -Bill Clinton

"If life is passing you by it is time for a change, stop wasting precious time because it waits for no man. Don't live in regret, live and leave behind a legacy." - Regina Weston

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

MHBlog: Guilty As Charged

Topic: Guilty As Charged

Key points of today’s topic:
Love you unconditional
Remember that it is alright to be selfish sometimes
Don't neglect yourself for someone else's happiness 
Don't live in regret
It's alright to say NO
And pursue your dreams because time waits for no man

Monday, June 15, 2015

Guilty As Charged by Regina Weston

It's time for a change, a time to reflect on where you are at this very moment in life and where you are going, and where you want to go, and how you're going to get there.

Reflect on your life for a moment and ingest these words. Many of us put others before ourselves. We sacrifice our dreams, our life to be married, to have and raise children, we take care of others, family and friends as our life past us by. While those we put before ourselves shows us their gratitude by being ungrateful in their deeds towards us, their actions and/or their words.

But today, I admonish you to take back your life. It's alright to care for others but never at the expense of yourself. It's time that you learn to take care of you before it is too late. Whatever your dream is, it is time to pursue it. Time really waits for no man. It is said that it's never too late to do this or that but that is a half truth. Do whatever it is you want to do while you have the strength, the metal capacities to do so.  

Children grow up and move on with their lives, and husbands, well, I find that they all have their to do list that don't always include their wives. And family and friends, some of them just come around when you can be of service to them. The point, women, is that it is time to be selfish. It's time to put you first and you should not feel guilty about it. (Self-Matters)

You don't have to live in regret of the would've, should've and could've because you can't change the past but you can create a new future for yourselves.  

Live and make your dreams a reality, stop putting you on the back burner. Put God and yourself first and watch the light around you began to glow brighter.