How many women are married to men that live as though they are single? A show of hands or a few amen's, is all that is needed for confirmation.
Why is this, I ask sincerely?
These husband expects their wives to fulfill all their wifely duties, and then some but what a husband is suppose to do, well, the handbook rules does not apply to them. They come and go as the please, and/or do what they please with no regards to what you feel or think about it. Your concerns, thoughts, when expressed go on death ears.
My question is, why get married if you want to be single, and live the life of a bachelor? When you're single you don't have to answers to a wife or a mate. But when you are married things are different, you have to answer to that person.
The reality is that people, men and women, get married for many reasons. The right reasons, the wrong reasons, the selfish reasons, and self-serving reasons. People need to be honest with who they really are and what they want in a relationship and a marriage and stop selling pipe dreams filled with nothing but smoke and mirrors.
For the ladies that want to be married be careful before you say, "I Do." If reds flags are flashing before your eyes before you're married to that man, pay attention to them. Don't ignore them! Warnings do come before destruction. The key words for today are "Thinking, before you leap into a forever contract."
When two people join in a union that is to death do you part, love, mutual respect for each other's thoughts and feelings, trust and communication should be at the forefront of the mind and intent of the hearts of those individuals. And if you're dating someone that is selfish, self-centered, narcissistic, controlling, those characteristic don't change after saying, I Do, things get more intense because now this person feels that you have to accept what they do or how they act.
Marry what you willing to deal with is my advice to you. If you know how someone is, don't complain about what you already knew after the fact. The only one you have the power to change is yourself.