Thursday, February 4, 2016

Ladies - Protect Your Womb

This is not an indictment on women of any age that has had children outside of marriage because I gave birth to two children out of wedlock myself. Therefore, I'm not coming from a place of judgment, I have no right to. What this article is, it's a letter to my sisters to start using some wisdom.  Our WOMBS are precious. Life is produce through us. It grows inside of us. We nurture it for nine months and because of this we as woman have to be very mindful of who we allow to enter our bodies and what they deposit inside of us. We are not breeders therefore women you can't allow any man to lay down with you and leave behind their seed.

Yes, babies are precious and beautiful. This is true. But a child deserves to have a decent, respectable and responsible father around to pour positive things into their lives and this will not happen if you lay down with garbage and allow them to leave behind sperm, which is their life force if they aren't going to contribute to nurturing it.

I understand that we all make mistakes, not using contraceptives and going with the flow in the heat of the moment, (passion) but ladies, it's time to be wise. Protect your bodies and your womb this is a part of using wisdom. Having multiple babies from different men, well, this in not cute and nor is it fair to the child or you.

In most cases, it is the woman that is left holding the responsibility of caring for the child if she stands accountable for her actions. The old mothers use to say, when you have one child outside of marriage it was a mistake and they gave you a pass but if you had a second child, it is not looked upon as a mistake because you knew better.

There is too much information handed to our young ladies in my view for there to be any teenage pregnancies or so call mistakes, (oops). They teach sex education in schools now. There are free clinics as well as health departments that hand out contraceptives to prevent unwanted pregnancies and diseases for young adults, men and women. Therefore there is no justification. So stop using excuses about why you didn't do this or that and be smart about what you do. I'm not here to promote my beliefs, which is, sex is for married folk because I didn't always practiced this myself and I live in a real world and know this teaching is not going to be believed or practice by all. What I'm saying is, for you ladies to use some good judgment and know that you are precious and your body is to be honored and cherished. But it you don't start honoring and cherishing yourself you can't expect anyone else to either.

Like everything in life, as long as you have breath in your bodies there is always a chance to do better. When you know better, you can do better, so start today, it's not too late. Protect your womb and who you allow to enter your body. You don't have to have babies just because. You have the power. It is yours and yours only. Stop giving your power away, trust me, he is not worth it. If he can't put a ring on it then he doesn't want it or you. Stop giving your vagina away. It's not a cookie as some call it. You buy cookies at the grocery store. Your vagina is not for sale! It's priceless! Believe it and treat it as such.

Monday, January 18, 2016

"What is the purpose of life, if not to live a happy life until we die?" By Regina Weston

Let me start by wishing you a HAPPY NEW YEAR. It is a wonderful thing to make it through another day, even greater when you have made it to see another year. Despite all the trials and turbulence you may have had to endure the year prior, you've made it, bumps, scraps and bruises, but thank God that you are still alive, someone else does not have that testimony because they didn't make it to see year 2016, for whatever the cause or reason but you did and for this, you owe God a thank you. 

I want to start out this year, 2016, with this topic: "What is the purpose of life, if not to live a happy life until we die? -A Quote by "Aristotle"

One of the objectives of life is to live a healthy and productive life. Now anyone that has gone through anything knows that things happen. Life happens, situations presents themselves that we have no control over but you can't roll over and die because you're not flying high all the time. Continue to do what you love and if you don't know what to do try finding something that you are good at and master it.
Learn new ways to manage stress, getting angry and throwing temper tantrums is not the way to go. In a lot of ways, it only makes the situation worse and shows a lack of maturity on your part. You can meditate on positive things, so that you can keep your mind and spirit in a good zone. It is also helpful to read or listen to inspirational music, which is said to calm the beast in you. 
Taking a walk to clear your mind and regroup is also helpful as well as venting to a friend or family member that is close to you. It's not good to hold things in, like a balloon you will bust or explode in the wrong way and maybe to the wrong person and undeserving person could be on the other side of your wrath.

Always remember to smile and pass it along you never know whose life you may change due to your act of kindness. Someone is always worse off than you and would love your problems.

There is some truth to this; life is what you make it when you learn to take the good with the bad therefore try to see and learn the lesson in every hand you are dealt. 

However take note to dump negative thoughts when they try to invade your thought process when you're life is being turned upside down. Learn to forgive and forget because offenses will come, people are a work in process, be mindful of this.

De-clutter your life and home of unnecessary things, clothes for an example, and sorry to say, you may have to distance yourself from some people that do not add anything positive into your life. You can do badly by yourself!

Most importantly, to quote - "Steve Jobs" -"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life." "Accept who you are, just be yourself, and you'll feel a world of difference."

And on that note, I'm going to leave this with you, "The race is not to the swift or strong but to those who endure to the end." Therefore do what is in you to live a happy and a productive life and help someone else to do the same.

Thursday, November 5, 2015

Dealing With Mental Illness by Jennifer Horne

It has been a long and trying road for me since 1999. I notice a change in my behavior in 1998; this is when I believe that I begin dealing with Mental Illness.  I was working at the bank at the time.  I started seeing black snakes, and it did not stop there, I thought my co-workers were against me. 

These delusions and thoughts went on for months and I just couldn't take it anymore. I wrote a letter to my boss saying that I wanted to resign.  I thought it was the best decision for me because the stress of dealing with people became overwhelming and I wasn't happy in the state I was in. 

After I resigned from my job, my life went downhill from there.  When you're dealing with mental illness you see things that are not there. You hear voices of people talking in your head that are not present. And you think that people are against you, who aren't thinking about you on that level. I didn't know this at the time; it was the state of mind I was in. 
And the pressure of carrying my third child didn't help my stress level any.

Thankfully, family and friends began to notice the change in my behavior because I became with drawn and normally I'm friendly and bubbly. I tried to run away from the voices and pressures of life by packing up my kids, getting in my car and driving just to find some peace of mind. And I did this with only twenty dollars in my pocket. This let you know how irrational I was at the time. I drove until I ran out of gas. It took my family to rescue me. This behavior was a result of my undiagnosed mental illness.

Thankfully, my family got me the help that I needed. I was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder, Depressive type- Unspecified. As longs as I take my medicine life becomes bearable. I'm sharing my story because many women are dealing with mental illness and they have not yet been diagnosis. If you are feeling strange, hearing voices, seeing things that are not there, and your reality as you know it, is off, please seek professional help. It's all right and know that you are not alone.